As children who are suffering we can teach ourselves to survive.
As adults who are suffering, we can teach ourselves to thrive.
And the thing about thriving that no one tells you about is that HEALING is an intrinsic part of the process.
We’re told to finish school, get a degree, and then get a good job.
Find a mate. Marry them. Have kids.
And then POOF! You will be happy and fulfilled.
What we’re not told is that people you love will die, you’ll hate your job, and your kitchen will accidentally light on fire one day.*
(*Hopefully not but these things COULD happen. And they’re common.)
The bottom line is, STRUGGLE happens. PAIN happens. DISCONTENTMENT happens.
But, you don’t have to throw yourself a pity party. (At least not a long one.)
Instead, you can choose to HEAL. You can look at yourself and get curious about the lessons and do the REAL work of life.
The work of finding yourself, of loving yourself, and of creating the life you really fucking want.
Welcome, I’m Jo Tucker, teacher, healer, coach and your new best friend for the journey of a lifetime.
My story isn’t one for the ages. In fact, I’ve lived a mostly average life. The youngest daughter of two kids to parents who married and stayed together. I lived a relatively easy life in the suburbs of Eastern Canada.
As is common with most young girls I know, I had a tumultuous + hurtful relationship with my mother, with my body… with the world in general. My teenage years are scarred with terrible fighting with my family, the grief of incredible self-loathing + self-doubt, and a long list of missed opportunities while I was carefully trying to colour within the lines. I did everything right.
Over the years, I alchemized my pain into numbness. I survived. I even experienced a few beautiful rainbows- despite it all, I still had considerable privilege and love in my life. I had great friendships, the ability to travel and explore myself, and the security in knowing that at the end of the day, I would be taken care of.
And yet, I was miserable.
It was during high school that I was first introduced to reiki + meditation, and it was in my second year of university when I finally decided to leave home.
A 13 hours drive from home, to be exact.
Leaving home was the easiest thing for me. It brought new freedoms, it provided me with the space to start sorting out my anxiety, my self-doubt and more importantly, what I really wanted for myself.
In this space I found a strong-willed woman, a risk-taker, a tender heart.
A year later my world was rocked by the sudden passing of my father. Not to sound trite, but death had long been a theme in my life. From the passing of relatives and friends, my initiation to Death had began at the age of 10 and had been consistent for years.
The sudden passing of my father brought on a new initiation of sorts- a deeper journey into my capacity to really have myself– to feel, to love, to grieve.
The first few years after his passing continued like all the others. But a crack had opened in my wall of numbness and things were starting to leak out– mostly big sloppy tears at the most inopportune moments.
These emotional cataclysms led me to seek help for the first time. First came a therapist that provided great relief to my unending parade of shit-talk. Then came the books on emotional healing. Then came reiki, again, but this time in the form of a certification. Then came the blossoming of my own healing gifts.
Then came the greatest gift of all: a consistent sense of peace with myself.
The doors kept opening, and I kept walking through them– though to be honest, it sometimes felt like I was dragging my ass kicking and screaming.
And it wasn’t all cozy chats over coffee and healing circles. I was diagnosed with diabetes. Relationships began and ended. Friendships came to completion. Loved ones continued to pass away.
When you shift how you are in the world, your world must shift as well.
This year, I spent two months caring for my mother post surgery and 6 months later, I spent 90 days caring for her as she suffered and eventually passed away from pancreatic cancer. 2018 has been a big feeling year for me + has tested my ideas on healing and possibility and through it all, I feel stronger and more peaceful than ever.
I want to show you what has emerged as truth for me, not for any reason but to show you what is possible for you.
I am so in love with the life I’ve created for myself.
I am so in love with myself.
I am so supported by myself, my family, my friends + the Universe.
I have everything I need to live a beautiful life.
I have the skills and the capacity to learn + grow with ease.
I can experience great joy + incredible grief at once (and that feels LIKE WHOA.)
I can thrive through anything.
Because I can heal anything (and psssst … so can you!)
This life is meant to be lived in joy + peace, we just need to learn the tools. I’ve got a few and I want to gift them to you.
My own healing path hasn’t been linear, and in the process I created a helluva lot of suffering for myself. I want to give you the sacred shortcut.
More peace and ease is where it’s at. If it’s what you’re seeking, then let’s hop on a call and discuss all the different ways we can get there, together.